Almost anyone who has experienced any degree of paralysis can tell you that friends often share questions about your disability once they feel close enough to ask. And when the braver friends have exhausted their polite questions— Do you feel any pain? Do you enjoy it? But just as we said while discussing back injuries and amputation , paralysis is not the same thing as being sentenced to a sexless life. Trying to adapt to sex as a paraplegic—or just to improve your sex life as a paraplegic—requires open honesty, with yourself and your partner. The more you share your wants, desires, and particularly! Foreplay is an important part of sex, and for many partners, is a direct channel to sharing feelings of intimacy. Small alterations to your foreplay can make the experience more accessible and allow both partners to focus on mutual arousal and intimacy. Men with paraplegia can experience a huge range of effects on their erections. Some men still get and maintain them with relative ease, while others might use a variety of toys or devices to help sustain an erection.
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Diane M. Rowles, MS, NP
Call today to learn more at Also, Anne who has a T-9 complete spinal cord injury SCI with paraplegia and her partner demonstrate a few positions they find comfortable. Finding the right position for you and your partner is a matter of open-mindedness, creativity, experimentation, adventure, adaptation, and maintaining a sense of humor. Finding the right position for you and your partner is a matter of open-mindness, creativity, experimentation, adventure, adaptation, and maintaining a sense of humor. Susan Kaye, a sex therapist and a Tantra educator, and I demonstrate how to stop, focus, and connect in order to set the stage for intimate time together. Many people underestimate the importance of emotional connection to accessing higher levels of pleasure during sex. When it comes to ED, there are many options for treatment including pills, vacuums, injections, suppositories, and implants. Here I discuss vibrators for men and women with spinal cord injury or reduced sensation.
Communication—as Always—Is the Place to Start
Positions and foreplay. One of the things I always counsel people is to experiment and have fun. I always encourage people to use what they liked before though. Foreplay is wonderful in that it allows the sensation, it allows the touching, it allows all of that to occur. It just, sets the mood if you will. And all of that is true—you do want to preserve energy, you want to be able to last the full episode, and you do want to free up any upper extremity, hand movement, arm movement to help stimulate yourself, to help stimulate your partner. So other ways to do it is take pillows, take a wedge, prop yourself up in the bed, have the partner sit on the lap. Other positions that work —experiment. For women with a spinal cord injury, the pillows under the hips is again a great idea, it helps with that pelvic tilt, it helps maintain the position. For men, take the armrest off, straddle, have sex in the wheelchair.
One of the biggest questions people ask about life with a spinal cord injury is: what is sex like? Can you have sex? Can you still feel it? Does it feel good? People want to know it all. The answers to these questions in all reality vary for each person. If you have a spinal cord injury, you can attest to this personally. How incomplete or complete your injury is, for example, can have a huge effect on your sex life.